Turning 25.

For starters, I am still 24, not yet 25.

I am only turning 25 in another (swallowing phelgm) 4 days time, which is in another 96 hours. (that’s quite long right?)

Anyway, I was celebrating my birthday with my 2 best friends since my primary school days yesterday. It just happens that one of the gers is a january baby, I am a february baby and another is a march baby. Ever since a couple of years ago, we have been celebrating our birthdays together in the month of february.

I was chatting with the gers and we were lamenting and updating each other about our lives and all. Career, family, friends, relationship, and of course, not excluding a little bit of gossip here and there about our ex classmtes.

I always find it amazing how a group of people, who were together, belonged in a cohesive societal group in one point of their lives, will evetually separate and move on to other groups, and the cycle goes on.

Looking back on my life, I do believe that there were various episodes of my life, where I will identify myself into the various groups, at various points.

When you are in primary school, you belong into this group with your “best friends”. You sit next to each other in class, during recess you head to the canteen together, blah blah. Ok, you guys spent at least 1/3 of the days togther.

And when streaming occurs, and as you are streamed into the different classes, you meet and make new friends, and the new cycle starts.

Same thing happens when you go to secondary school, jc.

But when I was in secondary school, I think I had a lot more groups. Your sec 1/2 class, sec 3/4 class, plus your ECAs/CCAs. I was in the student councillor as well as the concert band. So that means I was in at least 4 groups then; even though the people that I hanged out with in my lower sec and upper sec classes are the same people.

Next, when I moved on to JC, my first 3 months class, and the other permanent class that I stayed on with for 2 years. Plus, when I was in the drama club, the people that I hanged out with there also made an impact on me.

As I entered uni, your orientation groups was part of your click. And ultimately as you make new friends through new classes, you form your various clicks. But in fact, I thought that I was in less groups during my uni days. Probably because I didn’t participate in a lot of extra cirricular activities.

But I was glad that I went on to the Work and Travel programme to US, where I got to know so many new friends whom I believe that are keepers for life.

And in Japan, new groups.

When you finally enter the working life, you meet more people, colleagues, clients more grousp.

In fact, your social circle expands.

However, that does not represent that your friends also expand proportionally.

In fact, I felt that my good friends had dwindled.

But I am glad that I still have these friends around.

I am glad that my 2 best friends since primary school are still around with me.

I am glad that I had kept in touch with my good friends in secondary school too. Was even glad to be the bridesmaid of one last year

I am glad that my jc classmates are always organising gatherings that I could attend. Appreciate the effort.

I am glad that I am still in touch with some of the good friends since my uni days. Love them so much.

Good friends will be there for you, when you need them. But never take them for granted.

In fact, I feel really bad that I couldn’t make it for some of the gatherings when my friends asked me out.

Talking to my friends yesterday also made me think a lot more, realise what I should do with life, fill up my priorities.

Too many a times, I am one who just let nature takes its course, without actively seeking my goal, thinking that everything will be ok somehow, and that I should just do whatever I can at that point in time.

A quarter of a century old now, perhaps its time that I start actively construct a goal, and pursue it?

Priorities in life must be filled.

As for now I know what my priorties in life should be.

Health, Career, family friends relationship.

They all take a strong place in me.

I know that I will not be able to juggle everything well at one time.
But I will work hard, to fulfil and acheive them.

That’s my goal for this year.

Hana Yori Dango …. again

Ok, I finally gotta admit to this, this one thing that I have been trying to suppress inside of me all this while.

I am one of those girls that can go gaga when a guy do something sweet.

But wait a minute, I am not the only one, I think all girls are.

 

Anyway, I have been watching the new series, Hana Yori Dango, aka Boys over Flowers, aka Meteor Gardens recently.

I had first watched the anime version in the late 1990s, then the Taiwanese version when I was in JC, and then the Japanese version a few years back and now, there’s actually a korean version.

My sister and I had come to the following conclusion, the Koreans have the hottest F4s!!!!

The taiwanese foursome was really good looking, well not all, I just thought that both guys who played Doumyoji and Hanazawa Rui ( Jerry Yan and Vic Zhou) respectively were the most handsome.

Next, the japanese foursome was the worse. I mean, their average were like 172cm or what? And Matsu Jun was Doumyoji, me and my sis were like ??????????????????

But But But, the korean foursome is the best combination by far. They are all sooooooooooooooooo hot. I mean freaking hot.

Ok, I know I am starting to sound like a fangirl right now (Which I don’t deny), but you start wondering, do you really go gaga over these guys just because of their looks?

The answer is no. Looks itself, of course, the presentation of it, does provide you with brownie points. But ultimately, it’s what these guys do in the show, or rather, their characters in the show that really makes you go gaga over them.

A white knight who appears whenever you are in distress. Brownie points.

Your boyfriend kisses you forcefully (what a man, you exclaimed to youself).

He plays the violin for you (that’s ultimate).

He smiles at you yearningly ( awwwwhhhhhhh)

He buys a pair of gloves for you when he realises that your hands are always cold and your old pair is worn out. (how sensitive).

It might sound superficial to the guys, but hey, this is what makes girls tick.

If you can be the ultra-sensitive, nice, caring guy, you might be just average looking but guess what, case closed.

Girls like that.

Girls love that.

Guys always like to tease that girls like to watch those sappy, hopeless romantic dramas. There’s a reason why girls enjoy them and guys don’t.

Firstly, guys like that almost do not exist in reality. They are merely fantasies. And being normal human beings, we like to immense ourselves in the virtual reality to escape from the harshness of reality. Whatever the normal guys can’t give us in reality, we try to imagine that we are the female lead in the movie/drama and that we are receiving them in the fantasy world.

How sweet.

In fact, I do not think that it should only be girls that should be watching these hopeless romantic shows. In fact, guys should watch and take some form of “reference” from it.

But ayway, back to the drama.

All the guys, besides being freaking hot, also seem to make good lovers.

Right now, my sister and I are 2 hopeless romantics that are going gaga over them.

Awwwhhhhh…… I can’t wait for next episode when he appears in his white suit again.

Train rides

Is it just me or does the train seems to get more and more crowded these days?

According to a recent report by the LTA, apparently, the number of passenger rides has increased but taxi rides has on the other hand, fallen.

Of course, many might actually attribute it to the recession, as people are trying to “save” and not be too “extravagant” on their choices.

Even the controversial single supposedly mother of 2, Maya, had also recently declared that she has cut down on taxi rides and taking more of public transport “to save for her 2 children”.

Anywayz, it certainly does seem to get crowded on public trains.

I have not always been a frequent train-rider; by frequent I mean at least 3 times a week. Well throughout my schooling years, all the way to university, I never quite had to take the train to school, since my schools were in the vicinity, or I have a direct bus that I could take to school.

I only became a more frequent passenger of our beloved MRT mode of transport ever since I started working, which is slightly more than a year ago (how times flies …. back to the topic.) I can’t help but feel that the trains seem to get more and more crowded.

From my understanding, the frequency of train has increased, LTA has fined SMRT and the other operators time and again for “unsatisfactory service frequency” but the situation does not seem to have improve much.

Of course, if you are talking about how packed the trains can be, trust me, Singapore is still waaaaaaaaaaaaaayyyyyyyyyyyy better. Having experienced the train rides in Tokyo and Mumbai, which I believe are the world’s number 1 and number 2 most crowded trains in the world, the Singapore trains are still a breather to ride on.

Of course, ocaasionally you can hear irritated Singaporeans making that stupid “psssing” sounds when you happened to squeeze in a little or something. Relax, we are not trying to get on your nerves for nothing. Be a little more gracious.

The irritating part about the local trains are that; the middle of the trains are normally still rather spacious; by spacious, I mean that you can still open up your newspaper and read, but at the door openings, they are packed like sardines. It irritates that people do not take the initiative to move in. Or sometimes, when people just refused to move into the centre of the cart because since I will be “alighting in the next few stops”, I don’t want to “squeeze myself out”.

Relax, normally, the doors will be opened for a considerable amount of time to ensure that you can still get out of the train even though if you are squeezing out from the middle. Or walking a few extra steps won’t kill you; in fact it helps to burn a few more extra calories.

Anyway, back to the main topic.

As trains are getting more crowded despite an increase in train frequency, perhaps it could be because that Singapore is becoming more and more populated?

As I take the trains daily, it never cease to amaze me on the number of foreigners that are on the trains. Well, I am aware that in Singapore we have one of the highest foreigner ratios comparatively (1:4), but still the feeling is rather overwhelming.

Malaysians, Chinese and Indians formed the biggest bulk of it, since that they so nicely blend into our local mix heritage, many might not notice it but in fact, it does exist.

I remember hearing the different accents that flows around in the train when people speak on the train. Well, sometimes you can just tell from their look (Singapore chinese are not that fair lah).

 Of course, it is also interesting to see how of the things that people are doing on the trains. Smsing, playing nitendo, reading newspaper, books, sleeping, whatever.

As for me, I think I am the one who always try to watch what people are doing :p

时间

开创这个布落以来，英文的文章为主，有时候会以日语来抒发文章的内容，不过至今，还没以中文发过任何文章。

可能因为写中文会比较费时吧。。。

英文字母简简单单就可以从键盘上的字母陈列直接打进电脑里头，不过中文就麻烦多了，以拼音来翻译，拼错的话，就便成别的字。

不过，已经很久没写过中文文章了，又很想看一下现在中文的写作能力，就决定发了这篇文章。

 

明日复明日

明日何其多

我身带明日

万事成蹉跎

世人若被明日勒

春去秋来老将至

朝看东流水

暮看戏昔日蕞

百年明日有几何

请君听我明日歌。

这首明日歌是我小学五年级时，高级华文课本里的一首诗。记得那个时候，老师为了要我们牢记这首诗的意义，我们还得背整首诗，也把它当作听写的考题。

从那个时候起，这首诗我也就牢牢地记住。当然，也是因为其中的意思非浅，让它便成我一个时时刻刻的鼓励与提醒。

一个人生中有上千万个明日。直到我们在也不再这个世上的那一天起，我们每天都会有一个明日。一年有365天，我们就拥有365

个明日。

也可能就是因为我们拥有了太多的明日，我们也会以为自己的明日是无止境的，泛滥地利用它，等快用完时，才发现自己已浪费了多少的时光。是的，人往往都会在最后一分钟才后悔，自问；想当初为何不这么做。。。。为何总是临时抱佛脚。。。

如果有想争取的东西，别再等了，现在就去实现他吧！

如果想有要说的话，别犹豫了，拿起你的手机，现在就拨了吧！

时间是不等人的，错过的话，在也不可能把它插掉，它所留下的痕迹，只能随着时间的转移而淡淡冲掉。。。

Happy New Year

2009.  I can still remember when it was still 1999, the year that I was turning Sec 3. Time flies. Before you realised, it’s already so far away.

And before I realised, I have already passed 20, turning 25 soon, and with the world in it’s current turmoil, one can’t help but wonder what the future is going to be like.

Of course, no matter how much you try to predict, it’s futile since the future is unpredictable, one might as well channel your energy and resources into the current to turn them into the desired “future” that you want to see.

Mishaps, miscalculations, unforseen circumstances, blah blah, they are bound to be there. But overcoming them is one of life’s greatest challenges and isn’t that what life is all about?

But once you manage to overcome them and reach your destination, the euphoria and jubilation is undescribable I believe.

2009, a gray and turmoiled turbulent society which we live in.

Or,

2009, a new year with lots of exciting beginnings.

Take your pick

Tibits and drinks

Helping a good friend of mine to do some advertising.

It’s the christmas season so I bet there are lots of parties; private or corporate.

If you ever need tibits and drinks, my friend can get them for you at a good price.

Interested party can message me and I can pass you my friend’s contact

Merry Christmas to all!!!! Ho ho ho ….

Kiss of deaf

Just saw this article on the Straits Times earlier and thought it was quite interesting.

People, when you kiss in future, try not to be too overly passionate :p

Woman turns deaf after kiss <!–10 min–>

SHANGHAI – A PASSIONATE kiss ruptured a young woman’s eardrum in southern China, state media reported on Monday, in what has been dubbed the ‘kiss of deaf’.The 20-something girl from Zhuhai city in Guangdong province was treated by hospital doctors after completely losing the hearing in her left ear, the China Daily reported, citing the Guangzhou Daily.

‘The kiss reduced the pressure in the mouth, pulled the eardrum out and caused the breakdown of the ear,’ the treating doctor, surnamed Li, was quoted as saying, adding the woman’s hearing would likely recover in about two months.

The incident prompted newspapers to dispense kissing safety advice.

While kissing is normally very safe, doctors urge people to proceed with caution, the China Daily reported.

‘A strong kiss may cause an imbalance in air pressure between the two inner ears and lead to a broken ear drum,’ said the English-language Shanghai Daily in a story headlined ‘Kiss of deaf’. — AFP

Reward Yourself

Tis the season to be jolly

Falalalala lalalala….

Tis the season of christmas gifts

Falalalala Lalalala

 

When I was a small child, I love Christmas. I guess the obvious reason being that as a child, you get to collect christmas gifts from the adults. Yeah!!!

As I grow older, Christmas kinda lose its appeal on me, I guess mainly because I started to receive less gifts? And I believe another reason being that I am not a Chirstian nor Catholics.

To the christians, Christmas bore a big significance as it is the yearly celebration of Jesus birthday!!! Wonder why they didn’t celebrate his death anniversary as much (if you can remember; answer is Good Friday)?

I think it mainly lies in the commerical appeal of the festival.

Ask any retailers which season that they love the most, or best for their business, 99.99999999999999999% of those polled will most indefinitely answer Christmas.

Exactly, this is the time when the major toy-makers such as Mattel or Bandai introduces their new series of “toys” and you know kids, they will want the latest ones because everyone else in class has one!!!! And as parents, could you deny those innocent looking eyes when they just look and plead with you with that new Barbie on that shelf?

Nowadays, people normally celebrate christmas not because of what it is been celebrated for. Christmas nowadays is just a gathering of friends, present exchanges, for lovey-dovey couples. It simply is just too commercialised.

I remember when I was in Japan for Christmas, it felt more than Valentine’s Day number 2 since Christmas, is celebrated more like a day for couples in northern asia.

 

But anywayz, on the topic of presents, to people who are reading this blog or this entry right now, Reward yourself.

Reward yourself for this year.

In Japanese, there is this phrase call Otsukaresama desu.

It simply means 辛苦你了in chinese, and “it has been hard on you” in English.

Looking at year 2008, there has been lots of major global events, and a few other minor events in our lives, which probably might cause us a lot of trouble, tears, wreck.

For the past one year, you have been working hard at your job, listening to complains from your boss and customers, trying to balance your love life and family life, etc…..

Friends, it has been hard for you.

And for this christmas, reward yourself.

You deserve it.

When I first started work, I always had this dream that after the first year of my work, I want to treat myself to something, to celebrate being a “single career women”. Of course, I still haven’t reach the stage when I am very good at my career path (in fact it’s all haywire now), but I am still an unmarried individual :p

And most of my girlfriends will probably know this, when you are single and unmarried, there are soooooo many possibilities in your life. Go out with your girlfriends, pamper yourself to treats and stuff once in a while, … Girls, treasure this period, once you get married with kids, you can totally forget about life like that.

But back to the main topic. I remember had a list in mind, some of the things that I want to achieve and do after my first year of work. That included getting myself a branded handbag, treating myself to a spa session (Since i never been to a spa session before, thought that will be nice), and some other nondescript stuff that I forgot (They probably ain’t that important).

But now that I have been working for a year, I haven’t bought myself a bag, nor been to any spa.

Probably it’s around time.

Now that the economy is not doing well, with everywhere retrenching, of course people will be tightening their belts.

But, I feel that we should not forget to reward ourself.

A reward is actually a form of a gift to ourself, to thank ourself for all the shit and hardwork that you had gone through for the year. Of course, I am not saying that you have to spend a few thousand bucks on that reward, but probably set aside a sum of money that you will want to reward yourself.

Most of my friends are frugal people, and I know they probably will not spend more than a few hundred bucks for anything for themselves. But this time round, why not? You deserve it

If you are scared or worried of overspending, draft down a list, on the number of things that you want to do.

Some examples:

1. Buy that Guess bag that I saw on the basement of Takashimaya price, $120

2. Go for a facial session estimated price $60

3. a nice dinner at esmeralda’s at Chijmes, estimated $40 

4. A short retreat gateaway, estimated $200 bucks

Please note, the items that you list down must be the things that you really want and wish and yearn for, not things that you think you will need. For example, do not list down a new modem because your old one is spoilt.

After you list down your items, at the same time, list down how much it will probably cost you, to provide a good guage.

After that, come up with a budget, the amount that you want to pamper yourself.

Let’s say 300 bucks.  

Obviously, to do all of the above, it is impossible with just 300 bucks. Hence, this is where you shortlist and pick up the items that you want to fulfil.

If you haven’t been out of the country for long, you may choose to go for a retreat. Let’s say go for a spa retreat at Batam, and that you’ll be killing 2 birds with 1 stone.  And if you still have any extra, probably you can just purchase that killer hills from NIne West that you had saw but couldn’t bear to purchase it because of the high price.

To reward yourself does not mean to live extravagantly. But we can’t deny that most of life’s biggest luxury lies on extravagance.

But once in a while, do it. You deserve it.

As for me, I think I’ll try to choose between that Guess bag and Toscano bag that I saw at Robinsons.

The truth about English (in Singapore)

Most parents I know with kids nowadays speak English to their kids at home.

Despite English not being their first langauge most of the time.

It’s understandable, since English is been viewed as the more “prestigious” language compared to the mother tongues.

And people who speak English are ” more superior” than people who don’t.

Bullshit.

What most parents do not realise is that, the English that they are using on their kids are Singlish. Or maybe they might think that they are using Standard English, but trust me, most of the time the Standard English is actually “non-standard English”.

To provide an example, I was waiting for the bus last night on my way home. While waiting at the bus-stop, a mother and daughter combination was seated beside me. The little girl looked probably around 3 or 4 years old. They were making conversation and one of them went something along the lines of ….

G: Why the bus is so slow?

M: Yeah lor…. we waited for so long.  15 mins already.

G: Mummy can we take this bus?

M: No, cannot. That one goes to Hougang. Go look for daddy to come here.

 

Well, I am sure the above looks like a normal conversation that we overhear in our everyday lives. There doesn’t seem to be any big problem.

I guess that is the main gist of it. We are so used to English like that that we think that it is appropriate.

In fact, a lot of English phrases that we hear in Singapore daily are actually literal translation from Chinese.

For instance, the ever popular phrase,

“Since young ……”

It doesn’t sound wrong, I presume?

That is because we are so used to the way that this phrase rings in our ears.

In fact, in English, the proper way to phrase it is “Since I was young, …..”

Then, how did the phrase “Since young” came about?

I probably first originated from Chinese, since we have this phrase called “从小”.  And to further add on to it, another ever popular phrase (which is grammatically wrong”, ” Since young till now”, also orginated from the  chinese phrase of ” 从小到大”. Does it ring a bell?

If you use this phrase in English, 从小 and 从小到大 has the same meaning. Since I was young (until now).

Another phrase “buy one for me”. It actually doesn’t really exist in the standard english repertoire. Think 买1个给我。 买 in english is buy. Hence, buy one for me. But, in proper English, the usage will be “get one for me”.

There are a lot of other examples of migratory sentence and phrases. I am not too sure if this is only unique in Singapore but my point is, children who speak english at home doesn’t mean that they will necessary have an advantage all the time.

It is undeniable that they have an advantage in the conversational aspect but grammatically, it is totally a separate issue.

Able to speak English doesnt mean that one will be able to speak “good” english. It might sound like a paradox here but I do think that these 2 issues are separated.

Similarly, being able to speak Japanese, does not mean that I speak good Japanese.

Monsoon wedding

Tis the season for heavy rains …

Falalalala lalala …

Tis the season for all weddings ….

Falalalala lalalala…..

 

Time flies.  It’s already December, the last month of the year, the month between bridges 2008 and 2009. And as usual, December is the monsoon season. The season of heavy downpours on this part of Earth (think KL landslide). Nevertheless, December, is also the month for weddings (for some reason).

I have already been to 1 wedding this month (not a lot I know), seen 3 other weddings (think gatecrash for 5 mins) and boy oh boy… they just don’t end do they?

I know a lot of other friends and family members who also have tonnes of wedding ceremonies to attend this month. It’s almost like a prelude of the ang pao season for Chinese New Year.

But my question is, why december?

In fact, I believe that this interesting phenomenal is not only limited to just Year 2008. If my memory do serves me right, I do recall that even in previous years, my parents always receive lots of Red Bombs ( oops, I mean invitation cards, should not use a word like bomb to describe a “joyous occasion”).

But I am curious why most people will want to choose December. Firstly, logically thinking, it  might actually be pretty inconvenient. As it has been statistically proven, it rains more than 20 days out of the 31 days in December. And the probability that your “BIG DAY” will be on a sunny day is less than 35.48387%

Hmm… a penny for your thoughts?

Rainy days are very very troublesome for wedding ceremonies. Firstly, let’s just recall what the bride will be wearing.

No doubt, the big, fluffy and white wedding dress.

Can you imagine what it’s going to be like if it’s raining? The bridesmaid will have to help her to hold her dress? And then some other people will have to sheltar them with an umbrella, for guys, your pants get soaked.

It is very troublesome.

Just over the weekend, I happened to stay over at Rasa Sentosa. My parents had a wedding ceremony to attend and my father thought that it would be a good idea to get a room there and relax for the weekend.

Most Sentosa weddings I know are beach weddings. Can you imagine what a beach wedding will be like if it is raining?

Anyway, the high-tea wedding (even though it started from half past noon) that my parents attended only started to drizzle after the wedding ended.

Thank God.

Can you imagine if during the mid point of the solemnization, it started raining and pouring, I think the poor bride might be thinking ” Is that an indication from God that we are not meant to be together” Ok, just joking.

But my point is, it’s definitely going to dampen the spirits of the couple and the guests. I know that if I was one of the guests, I will be praying so hard that it doesn’t rain and wish that they whole ceremony will hurry so that you can finish the entire thing faster and seek sheltar before it finally pours.

You are the bride. It’s your BIG DAY. And you gotta rush your ceremony???

Even if it doesn’t rain, I think there are a few other factors about a beach wedding that most should consider.

For one thing, when we talk about beach, the first thing that comes into our mind should be the sand and the sea. Sand and the sea. Does it ring a bell? Appropriate footgear?

The main gist of it is your footwear. Most of us when we attend wedding ceremonies, we will all doll up, dress nice nice, and for ladies, we will most probably wear our killer heels. Ooh La La..

But, do you think they will be suitable for you to walk on the sand?

You’ll most probably be sinking into the sand even before you manage to lift up your other leg. Ouch …

 

I saw the solemnisation wedding of one couple, well it was nicely done. The chairs were the white, cloth covered chairs, facing the sea. Nice …

But but but …. if you remember your geography correctly, the beaches of Sentosa actually faces Batam, Indonesia. Lots of commercial ship sails pass the area.

So as you are in the midst of your solemnisation ceremony, you see the ships in the background, moving.

Well, it could actually be pretty entertaining to watch.

I happened to gatecrash another wedding in the evening. Think survivor style, Hawaiian type wedding. Ooh sounds nice doesn’t it?

I thought so too. Until I saw the chairs. Hmm exactly what kinda chairs do they use? Ok, think 7th month getai the red colour types? Just that instead of red, they use the white ones.

I understand that due to the sand, it might be easier to use those type of chairs, for easy maneuverability. But but but …. shoudn’t there some other better chairs to use rather than these “types’?

I am not trying to diss the Sentosa weddings or beach weddings per say. But my main point is that, to organise a more “unconventional” or “different” type of wedding. One has to consider a lot of factors.

Most brides want their weddings to be the best. But how do you define the best? From your point of view? or the guests?

The thing is, it’s hard for the bride to say that hers is the best wedding. But, if the guests are the ones who attended it said something like that, the weightage is higher.

It’s just like the chef commenting that what he cooks is good as contrast to the customer who ate the dish making the same comment.

Theme weddings are interesting. But, for the guests, what kinda experience did you leave them with?

Was the deepest memory they have of your wedding “being stuck in the carpark for 30 mins looking for a lot?”

Or probably ” Oh that wedding, yeah the one that started raining halfway. Yeah was it a hawaiian style wedding? I think so”.

The main theme of your wedding was not the first thing that came to the guests mind. In fact, it was some other “interesting occurences”.

On Sunday Life yesterday, I read a column titled “It’s all doom and groom” by Teo Cheng Wee. In the article, he illustrated how weddings have deviated from the conventional ceremonies of the 1980s and 1990s, where we probably just go to a restaurant and do a Yum Seng to the elaborate weddings that we see today.

A friend of mine whom I met up briefly last night had 2 wedding ceremonies yesterday. There was an afternoon session and an evening session. According to him, the wedding ceremony that he attended in the afternoon was “briefly amusing”. Apparently, the couple did a video (yes, I know, been there done that, saw lots of those at the ceremonies). But the thing is, they did it STAR WARS style? Hence, there was the Darth Vadar and then the bride was the princess. ???????????????????????????? So was the groom Luke Skywalker? His father Obiwan?

Videos like this are amusing. But they should be done appropriately to the event. Sometimes, couples add in certain elements that they think will “spice up the event” but how many people will remember that.

“Oh yeah… last time I attended a wedding where there was darth vadar and star wars. Whose wedding was that?”

It’s just like the tv advertisements that we watch on tv. We might still be able to remember the advert. But do you remember the product that they endorses for?

My parents attended another wedding last month and I think it made quite an impression on them. It was one of those “conventional” weddings in a 5 star hotel in Singapore. But the thing that made an impression on my parents was that ” They were so surprised as to how coherent they were in their speeches”. Apparently, the groom thanked the audience in fluent English, Mandarin and Hokkien. Wow… not bad for a young guy. And the bride was “thanking her parents” while weeping at the same time for “taking care of her until now”.

Awwhhhh…. Doesn’t it touches the hearts of people?

It made be realised, sometimes, the best wedding might not be those with lots of fanciful props or location. But the one that truly touches your heart.